A few days ago, I was having a conversation with a dear friend of mine and somehow we started to talk about an estranged friend of hers who has a habit of suddenly cutting off people from her life. I tried to delve deeper into the reason behind her actions and I came to the conclusion that she might be going through something for her to push people away so easily.
At some point in our lives, we all go through something – a difficult breakup, the death of a friend, or just feeling upset at life for no clear reason. No doubt, life can be hard and seeing other people around you being happy despite the hardship that life brings can leave you feeling alone.
I’ve always believed in being happy, no matter what life throws at you – because of my philosophy, I’ve had so many people tell me that I don’t have problems. Well, guess what? EVERYBODY has problems! It may not be as big as your problem, but it’s still a problem – something they have to deal with or get past; it could be a physical, mental or emotional challenge. Never assume someone else has it better than you and never assume that happiness is impossible.
We all have different coping mechanisms. Some people don’t like to talk about their problems; it could be because they’re too ashamed to share it or because they feel people will walk away when they find out what they’re going through. I’m not going to say that’s not a valid reason because it is – so many people will leave when you’re not in your best state, not necessarily because they’re bad people but the fact is that some of them have too many of their own problems and so it makes it harder to deal with someone else’.
If you’re lucky enough to find people that genuinely love you and want the best for you, then the best thing you can do is to talk to them. Don’t be ashamed to share how you feel, don’t be too shy to ask for a word of encouragement. Don’t be too scared to reach out and hold someone’s hand when you feel like you don’t have the strength to stand on your own. Sharing your problem is a good way to gain back control; if you’re not willing to talk to a friend, talk to a family member or even better, talk to God!
Prayer gives us access to God, and the beauty of it is that you can come as you are. You don’t need to say a perfectly constructed prayer before God listens. Take the first step by acknowledging his existence and telling him the things that trouble you.
For a long time, I’ve thought of taking prayer requests from people on my blog. Although, I don’t have a dedicated section for it here, I would love to go ahead and take them. If you would like to have me pray with you regarding anything at all – please leave me a message on the contact page.
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